Have you ever been told that something is best for you? Or have you used that line on others? The answer is ‘yes’ to both. It’s the last ditch attempt at influence. It also rarely works. Or maybe it does work – but to what end? And with what conviction?
Definition time- best in what sense? Assuming the scenario that you are the one using the phrase, have you really thought it out? Is it really the best for the other person? Or…. is there any residual positive impact for you if they choose to act on your advice? Is there a conflict of interest?
Simply because it is also good for you doesn’t disqualify it – but it does require an analysis as to your motive. (And you need to apply the same thought pattern if you are the one being influenced.) Why is it the best for you? What are other options? Does the other person really have my best interests at heart? This last question is more of a trust issue but is still relevant.
The last point to consider is what is stopping you and what is convincing you? If you do something simply because someone else says it’s a ‘good idea’ or ‘best’ for you – your level of commitment isn’t high enough for when the problems come. If something is truly ‘best’ for you and you aren’t operating in a fear vacuum then you have your answer.
What we need to remember is that if it really is ‘best’ for you/the other person then the fact that you made it know to then and suggested/endorsed it will lodge in the memory to be extracted at some time in the future… if it really is ‘best’.
