I would strongly suggest that the problem many of us face is asking the right question. ‘Why me?’ is not the right question. I’m not saying that it isn’t a question that shouldn’t be asked, but it isn’t the first question. Actually the first question needs to be, ‘Now what?’
If (when) you find yourself in an uncomfortable, unexpected, and/or unwanted situation then you need to decide/know what you want to do about it first. May I suggest that your first action to determine what you want to do is to seek the Lord and His answer for you. Unfortunately we too often forget our first line of defense. Prayer is not likely to be at the top of our list of what we need to do.
However, extrication can’t be our only intention. It’s important to know where we’re heading and simply ‘out’ is not sufficient. Many times we exacerbate the situation by rushing out with no thought of our ‘now what’. I can’t, no one can, provide you with your answer to ‘now what’ because of all the variables involved. But I can provide you with a process.
The process is not all that complicated. What you need to do is to stop, and that’s the most difficult first step. We typically rush around trying to either ‘fix it’ or get away from ‘it’. We need to stop. Then you need to pray about what’s happening and analyze. Prayer is a steadying activity and provides us with a context. As an aside: simply praying and asking the Lord to get you out of where you are smacks of praying amiss. Praying for wisdom and the Lord’s protection in the situation are two avenues of emphasis.
Perhaps not an in depth analyzing at this stage of why you are in your predicament is apropos but you will need to at some point to mitigate against repetition. Now is the time to look at your options and a major piece will be to acknowledge your responsibility and not shift blame. What will resolve your situation with the least amount of damage should be the focus. Next is to act on it.
