I don’t think I like that phrase – it’s so dismissive. It is anything but life affirming. While undeniably true, it doesn’t seem to acknowledge ‘now’ and what may be happening. This phrase which I would like to think was uttered with the best of intentions is disrespectful at best. Sometimes you have to somehow stop and really see what is happening before you speak that phrase. While true, it’s the ‘how’ that makes the difference.
Everyone faces this reality at least once and probably multiple times during their life. For me, I’ve discovered that until I acknowledge the pain resulting from what happened that I really can’t move on. And to embody the phrase requires acknowledging but not wallowing. We need to find our own ‘silver lining’ in the midst of the how we feel. Besides, in these situations we really are as strong as we think we are. We just haven’t plumbed our own depths.
What is equally ‘interesting’ is that this phrase also applies to good things that happen to us. When it is a positive experience then we typically like to stay in the glow. But staying too long in the glow either ends up burning us or we watch the fire go out. Certainly! Enjoy the moment of success but then… move on. There are new mountains to conquer and success is a great motivator.
Life goes on… there’s no stopping it so why not enjoy and direct it? You are the director of your life and only you can live it to its fullest. Wallowing and basking are momentary and that’s how you need to ‘live’ them. Certainly pain hurts! Certainly success should be celebrated! But the next moment awaits you – don’t waste it.
…but what do you think?
