I would suggest that too often we look at what we didn’t do, at least emotionally reconsider the not do. It’s the negative part of ‘what if’. In some respects the issue is moot because you DID make the choice you did. Go back? Unlikely because the stars never align in exactly the same way with the same set of dynamics. If you look at your decision making process, then that’s a different focus. How you came to make the decision you did will be a better use of your time and energy. Regardless, the point is that regret is not effective and can be quite paralyzing.
You took the road you are on for some reason – never forget that. Sometimes in the ‘heat’ of analyzing you forget that there were reasons for your decision. However, if you constantly second guess yourself you will discover you really never move on, you are in a kind of quicksand of indecision. Perhaps later you would have made a different decision but at the time? Analyzing does give you important information about you and your decision making process. It can help you fine tune how you go about ‘deciding’. But your ‘how you go about it’ is only one component in the process. Finally it will come down to how you act.
I started this with the intent of looking at the road you take and quickly got side tracked into the process of taking the road. The latter is important. However, the road you chose to be on…. are you pleased with your choice? And if not, why? And if not, change! Just don’t pre-determine it to be ‘the other’, earlier, choice. With a change you’ll have a new road that you would be taking. I think, though, that the question is – what road do you want to be on? Is there something fundamentally wrong with the one you’re on? And, what are the dynamics that would cause you to want to change roads?
Regardless of your ‘feelings’ do you take much time to look around you on the road you are on? Since you are on it – what is your thinking, how do you feel, what do you see? Who are the people on your road, or are you alone? Are you enjoying traveling on it or are you rushing to get to the end of this road or find a detour or a a new fork in the road? What does this road disclose?
The road taken speaks as much to a mindset as it does of behavior. “Take’ is a decision that is expressed in behavior. It is a choosing of one thing over something else… consciously, deliberately.
… but, what do you think?
