Have you considered the word? Power is a relational word – it’s always in terms of some thing… or someone. And… we all have power if only in our ability to give the power over us away. What is your power related to? And who or what has power over you? Is your interest piqued? (If so, with which Webster definition? Irritation? Curiosity?) Just so we all are understanding ‘power’ with the same definition, Webster’s says: “…power is possession of control, authority, or influence over others.” Do you feel you are powerful? In terms of what…???
Another part of the definition of power is: the ability to use the power. The important point, to me, about power is whether or not the power is legitimate and who or what legitimized it. Nearly equally important is whether or not power is used effectively. When power isn’t used effectively then most of the time it is either used to control (others, the situation) or it is a disaster that either is or is waiting to happen. When power is used correctly then it is never an attempt to subvert others or put them in harm’s way.
And you… are you seeking power? For what? Do you attempt to exert power over others? And which ‘possession’ do you have: authority or influence? Personally, I would prefer to have the form of power that is displayed as influence. In my observation, authority can be a transitory thing. Authority, if given by us, is one thing but if it is established on other outward factors then this can be taken away or changed from the person who initially had the ‘authority’.
My personal choice is ‘power’ based on influence. With this basis, an individual places their confidence in another person because of previous personal experience not power given by an outside party. If I personally have any power it would only be in this form. The underlying foundation for influence has to be integrity plus experience with the person exerting influence. This form of power is one in which the belief, thought is expressed but the people/person always retains the right of acceptance.
My final thought on this subject is that if you don’t believe in power or expressing it then I think you are living in a fool’s paradise. If that sounds harsh, apology. But even babies’ behavior demonstrates that on some level even they know power exists. Just watch adults reactions to a baby’s cry or their smiles. Talk about power…
