Do you feel that you are going through a time(s) of disconnect? Precisely, from what do you feel you are disconnected? Is it other people? Perhaps your dreams? Your source of identity? The feeling of disconnect can be nebulous and undefined so if you are feeling this way then the first thing you need to do is to discover both the focus and source of this. And no, that isn’t always straight forwarded or easy. But since the feeling of disconnect can best be described as ‘yukky’ then to move forward requires identification.
Webster defined ‘disconnect’ as: “…to sever, interrupt, or terminate a connection; to withdraw into one’s private world.” This definition tells me that this is a conscious act, even when we don’t identify why we are doing this. The definition that indicates it is our choice, especially to withdraw, lends a different slant to what it is and does. Obviously one of the primary understandings is that we disassociate by our own choice and determination. Unless we are the recipient of the disconnect. In this latter case, this typically leaves us with a sense of confusion… are we the reason for the disconnect?
One pertinent question is … do you want to be disconnected? Never assume that the answer is ‘no’ because there are times when we feel we need some space and time, some distance from what is happening in our lives. This is a reassessing and refinement time. So what do we learn during our time(s) of disconnect? I suspect that many times ‘learning’ isn’t in our sights, it happens and then we reach out again. But it really doesn’t need to be mindless. IF we are feeling disconnected then we need to take the next step and use the time to decide what’s happening, why, and what we want to do about/with this disconnect time.
Rational approach I agree and sometimes we just don’t want to be rational. However, after we finish our little ‘fit’ it’s time to become proactive again – at least that’s my mindset. My attitude is that I don’t want to waste what can become an asset. It would be my argument that occasionally the mind takes over and tells us that ‘something’ is not right (which is different than ‘wrong’) and we need time and space to resolve the issue. Thus we embark on a disconnect time. We don’t need to live there, but we can use the time and space productively to move on. Your attitude may be different. So what happens to you, for you in your disconnect times?
