This is not a ‘duh’ statement because we sometimes forget and attempt to do more than what is within our sphere of influence, ability. Typically the only thing we experience is frustration. We tend to forget that we can’t ‘fix’ everything – and we aren’t asked to. Sometimes we get derailed because we are trying ‘to do the right thing’ in a situation we were never suppose to become involved. Yes? Or am I the only one?
Quite honestly, most of us have enough on our plates that adding more only causes a kind of chaos – which to do first, when, how, etc. For most of us it is an inbred desire to ‘help’, to ease, comfort. However good the intentions, it may not be what we should be doing. How can a ‘good’ not be good? When we attempt to ‘fix’ (fill in the blank) but someone else should be assuming the decision-making and actions. Never take responsibility away from those who should be assuming it – it stunts their growth and I tend to think that it only burns us out.
Sometimes we come ‘late to the party’ and as such, seeing no one stepping up, we do. But, do we have all the available information to move forward? Probably not. Sometimes we seem to come on a scene of chaos and no one accepted as the leader… This situation is always fraught with discord and lack of commitment – but are we the one who should correct what is and is not occurring? Our suggestions, leadership is not always met with acceptance. So, do we continue pushing in? or quickly try to extricate ourselves? or…
When you are asked to ‘go above and beyond’ – who is doing the asking? Is it necessary? And… should you do it? Many times someone else may be trying to slough off their responsibility onto you. Other times your reputation for diligence and effectiveness may be the rationale. Still, the question is – is this something you should do? The point is to know with a certainty that ‘yes’ is your response or ‘no’. If you can and should do what’s asked – by all means, follow through. But if not… don’t accept because you always do or you feel you should, or all these familiar emotions. Accept/Reject based on what you are able and should do and be. Never forget… you can only do… what you can do.
