No, not only for yourself… with and for others. How are you involved with making memories with the closest circle in your world? And what kind of memories? I suspect a different way of saying this is, do people like to spend time with you? When you aren’t there, will your presence be missed? Do you ever think about the memories you are making? Bottom line is that every day we make memories but what kind becomes the issue.
In making memories, consciously, I’m not talking about censoring your words or actions. That would be tragic. Many times it is the spontaneous reaction and interaction that create the most enduring and lasting memories. Some are funny. Some are sad. But all of them are part of your relationships. And all of them form the fabric of your memories.
Second: I’m not talking about scripting the conversation. That never works out. After you’ve said your part, rarely is the response the one you scripted. This is especially true when you are ‘correcting’ someone. Often your truth is not the one they understand so your script is irrelevant. And, if you don’t listen to their response and assume they will be saying what you scripted for them, you will be in for a bit of a surprise. Now you have to throw your script out and engage on the basis of their comments.
Most memories are interactions between you and someone else. Do they reflect who you are and what you believe? They should. You don’t start out the day saying that you are going to make a notable memory today. It’s only on reflection, typically at the end of the day, that you see the memory you have made. Memories are dear. They will either make you smile or grimace.
…but, what do you think? what do you believe?
