You do realize that it may not be a case of you doing something ‘wrong’, you simply may not be doing something right. And while the right/wrong line may blur a bit, they really are not the same thing. Actually the only commonality is the ‘actor’ – you. Is this simply another not so subtle attempt to focus on critical thinking???? Absolutely! Since the focal point – you – is not in question then what surrounds the focal point becomes the issue. (And no, I’m not just playing word games.)
Before you decide that you are doing something wrong – analyze the situation. Are you wrong or is it a matter of timing? Or not doing what’s necessary… first? Or??? Wrong may clearly be the ‘wrong’ designation and you need to rethink what you are doing and your sequencing. And no, I’m not getting esoteric. Asking you to hone your analysis ‘tools’ – yes.
First: try and get the emotion out of the equation. Yes, it isn’t easy but how you define ‘right’, ‘wrong’, saving face, etc. has a tremendous impact on what you do and how you do it. If accomplishing the goal is more important than you being right (saving face) then you can be more dispassionate. This also speaks volumes about your character to others and your trust level really increases.
Second: remember that your approach may be the problem and not the other variables. The problem may be that you’re not doing (it) right. Analyzing your process, procedures to see if an adjustment is needed will also allow you to monitor your progress toward the goal. These two very simple steps may determine the answer to the question of whether you are wrong or whether you are simply not right.
…but, what do you think? what do you believe?
