Dr. Carolyn Coon

First… understanding is not agreement but it is the first step to know if there is communication. Are you hearing one another – actually, are you even listening? Are you speaking the same language (same words, same definitions)? Sometimes we discover we are using different words but meaning the same thing, thus the need to […]

There’s a uplifting movie about a young man who wanted to play football for Notre Dame. Though he didn’t appear to have the talent, that didn’t deter him from pursuing his goal. If anything speaks to heart rather than performance, that movie’s character does. Applying that thinking, you need to know that God wants us to run our race not

We are fond of quoting the scripture, “And we know all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) But what do we really know… that we get our way? Or maybe we mean that we will not reap any negative problems or repercussions

How are you in the completion department? Do you start ‘things’ but never finish them? Or do you always follow through? This is a character issue and speaks volumes. If you are only a starter then you need to rethink what you’re doing… and why. If it was important to begin the project it is

Do you live a forgiven life? This doesn’t mean that you don’t make mistakes but it is a mindset that requires you to walk as a person who is forgiven thus can’t walk in the past errors. It also requires you to forgive others when they ‘harm’ you. I recently read that forgiving others… doesn’t

Do you know what the Lord hates? Do you hate what He hates? Actually did you even know that God hates? He tells us plainly what He hates in Proverbs 6:16-19. First notice it’s what not ‘who’ He hates. Scripture tells us that there are seven things that the Lord hates: a proud look, a lying

Do you have a poverty mentality… and I’m not just talking about money? Poverty means lack; scarcity or dearth is also associated with poverty. Granted that poverty is typically referencing the lack of money this is a limiting perception. I’m also talking about abilities, goals, aptitudes, skills, etc. When you look at the definition of ‘mentality’

What’s fair? To whom? Who said that fair was something you deserved, your right? ‘Fair’ is such a moving target that it’s difficult getting a precise definition. For many people ‘fair’ is whatever it is they want at a particular point in time, but that’s only part of what I meant by fair being a moving target.

This is both a question and a statement. I’ve spoken about the power of words before and we need to realize what we say is far more important than we think. Scripture is very clear:  “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21) In the New Testament, James (chapter 3) tells

So… what actually IS self control? In its simplest and most basic form it is control exercised by you over you or directed by you rather than control coming from the outside, from someone else. Self control is not, however, designed as a deterrent to creativity. It is not meant to inhibit or stop the