Have you ever just been in a ‘mood’. No identifying marks. You can’t say it’s just … or it’s only… (I intensely dislike the dismissive ‘just’ and ‘only’). Initially, you really can’t identify ‘mood’ – what it is, where it came from, why it’s here – it just is! I really, really hate those times. And don’t tell me you haven’t experienced them. But what do you do when they happen? And, more importantly, how do you get out of them?!
By now I can typically identify the beginning stages to these times. And not being the patient type, I find that attitude only contributes to ‘mood’. However, identification doesn’t necessarily bring resolution. Distraction (from the mood) rarely last long though, admittedly, the type of distraction does have a bearing. Regardless, distraction is only a temporary ‘fix’. A ‘doing’ approach only will work if the doing has a relationship to the mood.
For me, these are times of frustration, rarely depression, but the kind of mood does need to be dealt with. Everyone, once they are in or going in to this funk, will need to deal with ‘mood’ or it will stay longer than it should. And yes, every mood does have a type even if it seems initially non existent. And just as everyone has to deal with ‘mood’, everyone has to start by identifying the why of the mood first.
Whys are as important as what’s with these types of moods. For me, the whys can often be traced to unfinished business, unresolved issues. Sometimes these are surprises because the assumption was that everything was finished and resolved. Typically all I need do is look at the latest ‘completion’ to find the issue. Then it’s my responsibility to actually resolve the uncompleted in order to move on. Did I happen to tell you… I’m in a mood.
…but what do you think?
