Are you too adult? One can be you know. Did you forget to take some of the joy of childlike wonder and discovery? If those aren’t present in your adulthood then you forgot to include them in your move. Happy where you are? Realizing that adulthood does leave something to be desired – joy, fun!
Wonder and Discovery do not have to be absent from your here and now adulthood. Actually they enhance adulthood and provide a stress reducing point in your you. Whoever told you they weren’t wanted or needed? Punch them in the nose… no, not literally – where it really hurts, in their rigid definitions. Besides, wherever does it say that seriousness doesn’t include joy? Or that the only definition of ‘adult’ is seriousness?
Let me ask the same question slightly differently. If you were to plan your absolutely perfect day, what would it include? What activities, people would populate that day? Now… is it totally impossible to create? If so, then now scale it to probabilities not just wants – how would it be ‘organized’? Is it impossible to create? Again… if so then what components could be included? And, what’s stopping you from creating it? I would suggest that if any of it included ‘making’ others do what you want, when you want it you eliminate those outside forces and look at your own creativity.
The point I’m making is – don’t let circumstances or other people define how you do adulting. Adulting is a personal definition and act – just don’t expect others to follow your definitions or even understand them if you don’t share who and what and why you are adulting in your way. And please… allow them to adult in their way but don’t feel you need follow – they really can’t ‘make’ you.
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11
[Someone was bound to bring up this scripture so I’m addressing it.] First look at the word – childish. Not childlike. 2 Different definitions. It IS mature if we put away childish things: all the words and behaviors of wants. Don’t get me wrong – it is never a ‘bad’ thing to let people know of your wants and dreams as long as you don’t expect or demand that they fulfill them. The temper tantrum of a child has no place in adulthood. But let’s also face it – we do sometimes use this tactic (consciously and not) as adults passive aggressive behavior springs to mind.
There are good and bad behaviors and attitudes in each age we pass through. The positive ones simply get a remake in our next ‘age’ and we always have the choice of bringing along the ‘bad’ ones. Adulthood in terms of age doesn’t always work – we have to choose to be an adult. But being an adult doesn’t eliminate some of the attitudes of childlike behavior and words – you can celebrate those as you ‘put off the old and put on the new’ (Ephesians 4:23-24}.
The Father gave us ‘free will’ so we can choose our attitudes and behaviors. This also includes the definition of ‘adult’. Check scripture as to how and why you should act in a particular way.
