Do you consider yourself a model? You are, you know. Actually…. everyone is. You model your true beliefs, your character, your wants, your needs – everything! You model by your actions as well as by your words. You are constantly on display.
I suspect most people don’t look at themselves as being ‘on stage’. But it is true. Everything that makes up who you are and what you do is evident in what you say and what you do. Are you in favor of … (fill in the blank)? Whether you say anything or not you indicate your stand – through your facial expressions and body language. This is why it’s important for us to know what we are saying.
A frown can indicate disapproval, but it can also indicate lack of understanding. A smile can indicate approval as well as simply indicating being pleased. Facial expressions can often be spontaneous but they are always communicating. This only reinforces the need to be certain about what we are trying to communicate. How many times have we miscommunicated because our faces said one thing and our words another? Or, we misunderstood because we heard a mixed message from someone else based on a lack of congruence between face and words.
Unfortunately, it is the rare person that is aware that they model who they are and what they believe – their facial expressions and body language reinforcing their words. Even if we don’t agree with them, these people are typically trusted more readily because we don’t have to hunt for hidden messages. A person like this is always honored for being true – what you see is what you get.
The question really is: if you believe in … (fill in the blank) then why disguise it? You might as well acknowledge what you consciously or unconsciously model – it’s a lot less stressful, for you…. for others.
