What do you do, Cosmic Reader, when you get blindsided? Or, when the worse case scenario actually occurs? How do you cope? What do you do next? Do you have options? Have you planned for possibilities?
We all face these struggles/obstacles/realities. Unless you are very, very unusual you face disappointments, however you choose to define the word. The critical mindset is: are you a wallower or do you,,, “pick yourself up/dust yourself off/and start all over again”(definitely with a new view/approach)?
Simply because wallowing doesn’t accomplish anything has nothing to do with this mindset. A wallower is a moan-er (oooohhhh woe is me) and the reason for the ‘failure’ is never, or rarely, their fault. The thing that a wallower needs to realize is that fault finding won’t accomplish much, unless discovering the reason for the lack of success becomes the motivator for a new attempt. And this holds true for being blindsided as well.
Coping becomes the focus, or should be. And from the coping, determining the next action, it’s a ‘moving on’ mindset. Coping never denies the disappointment but is really learner based – determining what to do if that situation ever repeats as well as providing a structure of what to do now.
