Bottom line: you can never accept another’s valuing of you until you know, understand, and accept your self – yes, with all the negatives but also with all the positives.
Self worth, especially for those with low self esteem, is a difficult act. Not the least of reasons being that it flies in the face of who (you) believe yourself to be. And, who you believe yourself to be is an anchor for what you do, for what you say.
Low self esteem people tend to focus on all the mistakes they’ve made, all the wrong that’s occurred. In a way, it’s a kind of reverse arrogance – but it really is arrogance. Wait! Before you argue that last point, have you ever talked with a person with low self esteem who was willing to see their good side? Or do they argue the point? Reverse arrogance.
Self acceptance of worth doesn’t mean you’re perfect. It means, simply, that you have value. But it also means that you have responsibility for this. Self acceptance isn’t for cowards. You do pay a price for being willing/able to accept yourself – warts and beauty spots. But you pay an enormouse price for self induced blindness. You steal – not only from others, but from yourself.
