I know I’ve mentioned this before but it is soooo very relevant in a variety of ways. Recently I was faced with a difficult relational problem. Frustrated and a bit irritated, I decided I would just walk away. Good plan… yes? Partially. My reality is that I was also walking away with unresolved ‘forgiveness’ – though at that point I didn’t see this also being present.
When I realized what I was feeling I tried to mitigate the impact. Have you ever tried to mitigate your unforgiveness? It does not work. I was justified in my feelings? Doesn’t matter. There is the scripture that says:
“For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.” [Matthew 6:14-15]
Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. How can I justify my feelings (which always get translated into behaviors) so that my Father can continue to forgive me? Simple – it doesn’t work that way. I know that there are teachings that tell us that ALL our sins, now and in the future are forgiven in advance when we become born again. Interesting. Accurate? Or misapplied? Matthew is quite specific. Will not is will not.
Now look at this dilemma from a Soul’s point of view. Our emotions are part of our soul along with our mind and will. Hmmm… will. Let’s get honest with ourselves. If we’ve been hurt (intentional or not) don’t we always want some form of punishment (revenge) for the perpetrator?
“Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath [and His judicial righteousness]; for it is written [in Scripture], “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for by doing this you will heap [a]burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome and conquered by evil, but overcome evil with good.” [Romans 12:19-21]
A simple question can also be applied at this moment – is the other person really your enemy? Is the other person a brother or sister in the Lord – if so, they can’t be an enemy. Are they in the wrong? Did you attempt to speak the truth in love? Questions abound! However, the final point is: Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. And to emphasize this – have you ever been the person on the other end – the one causing the hurt?
More musings later…
