Are you? Life experiences seem to force you into a cynical attitude? Should you be? Can/Do you want to break this ‘expectation’ that leads to cynicism? Let’s first consider definitions – does the following describe you? Dictionary definition: “One who believes that human conduct is motivated wholly by self interest.” Another definition states it only slightly differently: “A person who has negative opinions about other people and about the things people do; especially a person who believes that people are selfish and are only interested in helping themselves.”
Now, with those definitions in mind, is this your definition? Are you therefore, a full blown cynic or are you reluctantly cynical? Or do you define your behavior as ‘relative’ – it depends on the other person or situation? Regardless, reluctant or not… do you define yourself as a cynic? Do you know why? I don’t believe we are born cynical but that how we interpret our life experiences ‘mold’ us into cynics. I also believe that unless one acknowledges one’s own tendency toward cynicism, you can’t change your mindset.
The second issue is whether or not you want to change your perspective. Many people are quite comfortable being cynics because this can now explain and confirm how they see what they see. Though how they can ‘explain away’ those evidences that contradict this stance is mystifying. Accepting the cynical stand also means that they keep distance between themselves and the people who inhabit their world. The interactions are superficial at best. Sadly, their ability to affect change or improve the situation is typically not accepted because they aren’t involved.
There is a kind of ‘safety’ in being a cynic because you are removed from interactions thus allowing you to not be affected. But, are you truly removed? If so than this is a lonely existence. Face it – cynicism is a wall, a defense so that you won’t get hurt. But there are never highs or lows… or if there are, they are ignored because they don’t ‘fit’ the context of cynicism. Life is not to be avoided. You have a wonderful opportunity to make a difference in your world. No, not everyone will greet you with open arms… then again, they won’t be able to ignore you either.
