Dr. Carolyn Coon

  Are you generous? Perhaps just as important… do others see you as generous? Do you want to be considered as a generous person? Now the crux of the question – generous about/with what? Your time? Your resources? Your thoughts? Your you? Generous is as much about the intangible as is is the material. Generous is always a […]

  Where are you on the confidence continuum? Supremely confident or low self esteem? And the focus/issue is not the point, I’m talking about your overall rating of you. Smugly Supremely Confident is not a positive nor is it attractive but snivelingly low self esteem isn’t either. Your level of confidence really becomes a method

  It’s not always easy and sometimes it is extremely difficult to cope with a disappointment – regardless of the ‘type’. For many of us, the first reaction to disappointment is pouting. Pouting can take many forms but there are both childish and adultish – and both exist, are visible, and are undeniably pouts. There are multiple issues

   How do you arrive at your decision? There are many types of decision making styles… which describes you? Do you laboriously consider each and every option and ramification? Do you, after asking a number of people, accept the ‘majority’ opinion? Perhaps you adopt the ‘fly by the seat of the pants’ approach Do you take

  While I say, often, that it’s all about you, it’s because it all starts with you. But if it only stays with you then you’re not doing anything with what you are and have (and have been given). Yes… it starts with you, and it is all about you… but it’s also – more!

  Have you ever just been in a ‘mood’. No identifying marks. You can’t say it’s just … or it’s only… (I intensely dislike the dismissive ‘just’ and ‘only’). Initially, you really can’t identify ‘mood’ – what it is, where it came from, why it’s here – it just is! I really, really hate those times. And

  depends, basically, on what you put in. The old ‘what you see is what you get’ can be applied to your ‘gettings’. What you do is of paramount importance. If you do nothing, do you still expect? Many people do. The do nothing but expect something is the ‘free ride’ mindset – but this doesn’t

  Belonging… a critical emotional, intellectual and ‘need to know’ concept – I suspect that’s why I write about it, in its many manifestations, as I do. Where you ‘belong’ identifies you as much to others as to yourself, but especially to ourselves. Do you know where you belong? Are you in your place of belonging?

  Do you ever look back? Not the nostalgia looking back and reminiscing… nor the ‘if I only knew’ looking back. The looking back, momentarily, to see where you were and the path you took to get where you are. Are you ever surprised? Most of us are but it isn’t always a negative surprise.

  I love light bulbs! They are the “Eurekas!” in life. The time when suddenly the pieces of the puzzle you’ve been working on suddenly fall into place and the picture emerges. Those are euphoric times! I grant you that this all sounds fatuous or worse, slightly tongue-in-cheek, but I’m quite serious – light bulbs are fantastic.