Dr. Carolyn Coon

  Do you get caught in the shoulda, coulda, oughta? Of course you do. We all do. The difference is the extent to which we let it control our lives and especially our feelings. This is a form of ‘if only…’ which accomplishes no more than the other words do. The point really isn’t what we shoulda/coulda/oughta […]

  I like that phrase – it really does describe best what it seems that we do. We are told that we are to move toward perfection (Matthew 5:48) and that we will become perfect. However, it is not a state that we come to fully in this life but that doesn’t quit us from the

  Do you sometimes feel like you are a mistake? Maybe you ‘think’ you might have been born in the wrong time… or maybe born into the wrong family… or maybe in the wrong country? Maybe? Not. God doesn’t make mistakes so you can’t be one! However, you have free will which means you can

  Are YOU on the judgment wagon? If you are, this is one wagon you should fall off of. Are you the type that judges another person based on what you see? Of course you are – we all do this. The difference lies with what you are judging: the behavior, the rationale … or

  The first step in getting to where you’re going is knowing where you are going. And this is not as obvious as you might think. There are hordes of people going, but going in circles or retracing steps or… If you are going to a specific place then you need to consider the best, quickest,

  Your journey starts with family – they are your roots. Good, bad, indifferent… this is the beginning. Family is where you try out new behaviors, new ways of interacting – whether or not you are aware of this. Regardless if your family is supportive or demanding, encouraging or dysfunctional this is the beginning of your learning

  Do you think you are too… comfortable? You do realize that the familiar can control, yes? It can and we let it. We like ‘comfortable’ – who wouldn’t? The question that needs asking is how do you use familiar and comfortable? Does it provide a springboard, a foundation for something… else? Or do you let

  Are you controlling? Or being controlled? Or where, on this continuum, do you see yourself? Or is it a question of what ‘area’ because control is a relative term? From another perspective: control and ownership are closely related. If you don’t have any control then it’s difficult to feel any ownership for what’s happening

  YOUR life is precious. You do realize this, don’t you? No, I mean really realize this, not just give lip service – that this is a ‘given’ in your thinking. There is a scripture (Psalms 139:14) that talks about you being wonderfully and fearfully made. ‘Fear’ in this sense is awe not frightened. If you are

  Are you? The answer is – of course. Don’t go all self righteous, we all, to some degree or other, are self absorbed. It’s another of those ‘givens’. It’s not something to be ashamed of… unless it controls you. And, until you are able to acknowledge that you are self absorbed you won’t be able to