Dr. Carolyn Coon

We all make life changing decisions, maybe not every day but quite often. I wonder if we think (ahead) to the consequences/ramifications that emanate from the decisions we make? Actually I wonder if we recognize the decision to be life changing? The answer is ‘probably no’ to both questions. Some examples of what I am calling life changing decisions […]

Do you ever have a pity party? Everything good happens to everyone else and you’re, at least in your mind, lefts with the dregs? You have untold burdens to bear but everyone else seems to have things handed them on a golden platter?  Most pity parties range the gamut from really maudlin to only slightly distracted.

How do you react, respond to a point of view different from your own? For that matter, do you even let them finish their sentence before interrupting? Do you feel you have to ‘defend’ your view? Or perhaps you tolerantly let them talk but dismiss their thinking out of hand? (This often happens to young people

We all have times in our lives when we need an attitude adjustment. The subject of the adjustment, hopefully, varies – the need rarely does. I suspect it would be so much simpler and less painful if we could only identify, early on, when an adjustment is necessary rather than discovering in the midst of the need. This has nothing

Now. Today is the only day you have. I know that the phrase, ‘today is the first day of the rest of your life’ is quoted often. But… have you thought that today, right now may be your only day? Consider, for a moment, what you would want your final day to look like – and

What defines your ‘good life’? What do you need/want in order to enjoy the good life? Do you have all you need now? What’s missing? Is it only material things that are missing or are there some more esoteric ‘items’. Actually the place to start is with a definition. YOU have to be able to

Legitimate question. We all typically are asking for ‘more’ to accomplish whatever the task/goal that we are pursuing, but what are we doing now with what we have? Marking time? Working toward the accomplishment? Waiting? We obviously have some of the resources/supplies we need or we never would have gotten started, so what are we doing…now?

We humans are really, really quick to judge – a rush to judgment. Why? Because it neatly places the issue in its proper place. If it’s a person then it tells us how we are to  respond to that person. As a creation we are most adept at putting people and things into boxes and then

“… the path of grief could not be scripted and was one taken alone, even if one grieved with family.” That’s a quote from a book by Jacqueline Winspear and probably is one of the best descriptions of the the emotion of grief I’ve ever read. Grief is really all pervasive. It is physically felt

What a devastating phrase. I had a friend who use to enjoy quoting, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Unfortunately that’s all too accurate. These words are often used to cover an unthinking act. We use it to justify what we’ve done, or not done. It’s really an excuse, a throw away