Dr. Carolyn Coon

Have you ever given really serious thought to ‘forever’? I find it difficult to get my head around the word because ‘forever’ is an incredible concept. And I keep forgetting that forever does not mean no change. How can there be a changeable forever? Only One can make that claim and encompass change but not to forever. I […]

Doubt is a consumer. It consumes thoughts, time, energy… trust – and it rarely produces anything of value. I’m not convinced that doubt isn’t the all time worst, most crippling emotion. Once doubt rears its head, until it is resolved, it lives on the border of mind and heart – never completely vanquished. If you doubted in

Is there any defense of/for gossip? I’m not sure there is because by definition gossip is, according to Webster: someone who chatters idly about others. However I’m inclined to think the definition needs expanding. Gossip is a person but it is also the words. Gossip’s content, by its nature, is malevolent – it typically is negative

What do you do when conflict raises it’s head? Some people will do just about anything to avoid a ‘fight’ and some people will do just about anything to spark a ‘fight’. If neither of those two descriptions fit you then you must fall somewhere on the continuum between the two. While avoiding a fight

Intentions of the heart – gets you every time, doesn’t it? My trifecta is that intentions underlie motives and motives underlie behavior. Yes, there is a difference between intentions and motives. We begin with intentions which requires us to be honest with ourselves as to our why. You can’t hide from your intentions nor feign lack of

What’s your opinion about habits? Are they helpful? Tiresome? Facilitory? Bad habits also exist and they typically are detrimental, but I’m talking about ‘good’ habits. What are yours? How long does it take for a  repetitious behavior to become a habit? As an example: does your ‘routine’ include exercise? And, is this exercise something you

Are you saving for a rainy day? Do you even know what that concept means? We, of a certain age, do understand the meaning and, undoubtedly, practice it. But at what point is your saving completed? Have you ever consider this question? When is it OK to begin spending, at least some, of the rainy

“Until I am dead, I am alive.” is a statement in a book by one of my favorite characters. He goes on to say, “Life is a riddle… It is filled with clues along the way, with messages we struggle to understand.” Aren’t those powerful concepts? So many people are walking around consumed by the negative and

Where does your validation of your worth come from? Does it have to come from outside of yourself and if so, who is the other person (people) that validates you? And, most important, what is it you have to do to earn and keep that validation? Perhaps the question should be – do you need outside

Do you not need an enemy because you are your own worst enemy? Do you do more to undermine yourself than anyone could ever consider doing to you? Do you shoot yourself in your foot by what you say/do or don’t say/do? Do you know what it is that you are doing to yourself and